The War Within Ourselves
Being a woman is hard. We live in a world that naturally goes against us, everything seems harder for us and we feel pressure to live up to the standards set by society in every aspect of our lives. One of the most unfortunate of all these things is the pressure women feel to be the media’s idea of beautiful.
Do you ever find yourself constantly comparing yourself to other women? I wish I had her hair. Her body is beautiful; I could never have a body like that. Her face is so pretty; I wish mine was that pretty. And as you begin to think these things, negative thoughts begin to consume you. My hair is disgusting. I’m fat. I’m ugly, I’ll never be beautiful. Then, you will begin to wonder how your significant other can find anything attractive about you. How does he look at me and this hair in the morning? When he spoons me I know he thinks my stomach could be tighter. He always says I’m beautiful, but I know he is just saying that to make me feel good about myself. Eventually you won’t be able to hear someone compliment another woman without thinking “I don’t have that. What do I have? I have a nice smile, but they didn’t tell me that. I have a nice smile, don’t I?”
Why do we do this? I’ll tell you why. We are being brain washed to think that there is only one type of beautiful; size two, long thick hair and a flawless face. This just isn’t the case. You see, there is no true definition of beauty. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. We all know that saying and we need to understand it. What one person finds beautiful, another may not. What one person finds ugly, another may genuinely see something the person next to them doesn’t.
So how do we fix this? You need to be 100% convinced that you are beautiful. There is a way to feel better about yourself you just have to believe what I’m about to tell you and do it.
buy cipro in mexico Every morning look into the mirror and say “I am beautiful.”
Yes, it sounds extremely corny and you may feel weird the first few times, but it will start to build your confidence. If that is too weird for you, write on your bathroom mirror “You are beautiful.” Bottom line, you have to tell yourself that you are. There is no other way around it. Sure, you can fool others into thinking that you are confident, but you can’t fool yourself.
online purchase of dapoxetine If someone compliments you, don’t argue.
Take it in. Believe that what they are saying is genuinely what they see. “You have beautiful eyes.” This person really thinks you have beautiful eyes. Even if you hate your brown eyes because it reminds you of poop, this person thinks they are beautiful and so should you. If you begin to say “No, they look like a turd” you are going to create an awkward argument and then they will be like “Huh, guess I never looked at it that way.”
If your significant other says “I really like that girl’s hair, it’s pretty badass!” Don’t assume yours isn’t.
Don’t immediately think your hair sucks or he doesn’t like your hair. Comparing yourself in situations like this will make you feel under valued or make you question if your hair looks alright. (By the way, 99% of guys barely notice hair in general, this is just an example).
Compliment other women.
It doesn’t seem like it would help, but believe me it does. By going out of your way and complimenting a complete stranger about their appearance, you are gaining confidence in yourself because you are making yourself vulnerable to potentially not receive a compliment back. And hey, that’s okay! You know why? Because you know you are beautiful and you don’t need someone else to tell you that.
Stop the war within yourself by beginning to love who you are. Don’t get caught up in advertisements on TV or how beautiful the girl at Starbuck’s is. You are one of a kind. There is no one else in the world like you. Embrace t
Nothing is more beautiful than confidence and if you have confidence you will feel beautiful.